We live in a society that bases worth almost exclusively on what the eye can see. Sadly, the value of a human being has been condensed down to external conditions such as of looks, money, or possessions. And worse yet, it’s almost impossible to escape these “norms” due to the billions of dollars put towards advertising.

First. The inescapable truth:

Now, let’s dismantle the lies.

1. How much money you make and what’s in your bank account. Due to our syntax, the word “value” and “worth” are used interchangeably with both money and our inherent value as human beings. Unfortunately, people mistakenly believe that to increase their “value” as humans, they must increase their “value” monetarily. It doesn’t work that way. Money may increase your net value, but your inherent value can never be increased or decreased. More important than how much money you have is what you do with it. Money is a magnifier.
2. Your education level or grades, ie, how smart you are. There’s no question that pursuit of knowledge can be a noble quest. But the reasons why you are getting your education will be as important as the education itself. More degrees does not equate more value, nor does it equate more service.
3. Your weight/size/overall appearance There’s a billion dollar industry riding on your belief that your weight matters and that if you looked a certain way, you would be more “valuable.” Buying into this belief prevents you from feeling worthy and happy now. There is no upside to believing that you have to look a certain way before you can feel a certain way.
4. How big your house is and what neighborhood you live in Whether you are living in a humble cottage or a mansion on the sea, your home does not reflect one iota your inherent worth. While the inside of your home may indeed be a “reflection of you,” it does not reflect your worthiness, only your particular design taste.
5. How many “followers” or “friends” you have on social media If our worth was truly contingent on how many followers we had, that would mean babies and the elderly who haven’t jumped on the social media band-wagon were worthless. And we know that is absurd. Intellectually we get it, it’s time to whole-heartedly accept it and know those numbers don’t mean anything about your worth or potential.
6. How “talented” you are in sports, art, music, etc It’s easy to put a lot of stock in outward abilities and get caught up in the comparison game. Sadly, this is a game where there is always a loser. Society puts more value on these “showy” talents and less on the inward, “silent” talents that are just as valuable, yet still don’t contribute more or less to your worth. Talents like being a good friend, excellent communication skills, unconditional love.
7. What type of job you have There’s no question society puts a higher value on certain jobs over others and then jumps to the conclusion that those working those jobs are more valuable human beings. False.

Society will tell you all of this matters.

I’m here to tell you society lies. All of the time.

Try spotting the lies

Each of us are vulnerable to believing lies like these when we’ve been fed them for so long. The key is spotting them. Where do they show up in your life? How can you redirect your brain to believing something else that will serve you better?

You can begin by knowing that each of us are born with inherent value and we each die with that same value. That value is infinite. Can you add or subtract to infinity? The same logic applies in your life–anything you do or don’t do will never impact your worth.

The most important question:

If I’m inherently worthy, what will I do with my one beautiful life, just for fun?